Are you exhausted from trying to earn love through endless achievement? Do you feel trapped in a cycle of proving your worth through perfect performance? You're not alone. The journey from programmed unworthiness to authentic love is one many of us walk, but there's...
How Our Past Shapes Our Understanding of Servant Love The sound of shattering glass as my father threw his plate against the wall wasn't just about dinner being late. It was about dominance, about demonstrating that love meant control and service meant submission. His...
When Others' Need for Recognition Triggers Our Programming It's a familiar dance, though the partners have changed. Someone does something "for me," and immediately my childhood programming kicks in. Their need for recognition, their subtle (or not so subtle)...
Have you ever noticed how success feels dangerous? How just when things start going well, you find subtle (or not so subtle) ways to sabotage yourself? That voice in your head whispers, "Who do you think you are? Don't live above your raising. You won't amount to...
Breaking Free from Performance to Find Joy in Authentic Service When people hear "Servant Love," some might imagine bondage, forced submission, or obligatory service. Their reaction reveals how deeply our understanding of both service and love has been corrupted by...
How Childhood Programming Shapes How We Hear and Speak Love The splintering of my toy gun under my father's deliberate destruction wasn't just about breaking a cherished possession. It was about breaking spirit, about demonstrating that joy itself was a privilege I...